For the better part of this last year, I wanted to disappear.
Consumed by the most severe depressive episode of my life, even brushing my teeth was an accomplishment.
Conversations were a shaky thing to hold. My trains of thought only ran on circular tracks. I didn’t know who I was or what I liked. Everyone around me seemed to have a neatly packaged, defined personality, and I questioned whether I ever had one at all.
How do you exist in the world when you don’t have the slightest idea who you are?
But with medication and therapy, my capacity…
I’ve held jobs, but I don’t feel as though I’ve ever really worked.
I’ve sold gourmet candy to mall-goers while dressed in a bow-tie and bowler hat, walked stranger’s dogs without ever meeting the owners, guided toddlers through handstands while their parents complained I wasn’t “pushing them hard enough,” taken the most particular coffee orders from men who told me their name for the order was “whatever you want it to be,” as if twenty-one year-old me would ever have any interest in their entitled, bald middle-aged meat sacks, I have created resumes for government workers, businesspeople and engineers, but…
Despite the stereotypical image of a cis, white, thin heterosexual woman the media often portrays, eating disorders are actually more prevalent in the LGBTQ+ community. According to a 2018 survey by the Trevor Project , 54% of LGBTQ+ youth ages 13–24 have been diagnosed with eating disorders, and 75% suspected they had struggled with one at some point in their lives.
Of those, transgender people had the highest rates of eating disorders overall with 71% of heterosexual transgender survey responders reporting an eating disorder diagnosis.
NEDA compiled a list of just a few of the factors that may contribute to…
“I’ve had a lot of messages from folks that are anorexic that are livid and angry because they feel like I’m lying. I am plus size, but advocating for diversity and larger bodies, and so I think for people hearing me say I’m anorexic was really jarring and hard and confusing.”-Tess Holliday
You may have heard the term “atypical anorexia” in the news recently, thanks to supermodel Tess Holliday bravely sharing her experience with this eating disorder on TV and social media. …
When Demi Lovato came out as non-binary last month, I saw just how conditional and selective LGBTQ+ allyship really is.
Facebook friends of mine who had previously shared supportive LGBTQ+ content posted memes linking Demi Lovato’s coming out to the brain damage they suffered after their 2018 overdose. (Demi has said their overdose actually stemmed from their suppression of their gender identity).
A Christian college acquaintance captioned a photo of Demi’s announcement with: “I don’t want to be a part of this generation anymore. Crazy.” This was unsurprising but still infuriating. (If you don’t want to be in this generation…
I have decided, somewhat serendipitously, that if I happen to have a daughter someday, I will name her Bridget (if there is no daughter, a cat will get the name instead). There is no other name that sounds as solid. (And how cool is the nickname ‘Bridge’?)
I made this decision while re-watching Bridget Jones’s Diary in celebration of the film’s 20-year anniversary.
I won’t confirm whether this hypothetical daughter’s namesake is actually the imperfectly perfect rom-com character, or an actor I adore, because it could be either. But Bridget Jones wouldn’t be a bad person to be associated with.
Today is Transgender Day of Visibility, which is part of a whole awareness week that not only recognizes the discrimination faced by transgender people, but also their incredible contributions of the past and present.
With anti-trans bills sweeping the nation, it is a critical time to take a look at the ways a lack of understanding, and in some cases, outright hate, has impacted the trans community.
Lawmakers in states like Arkansas are denying transgender youth the right to life-saving care and involvement in sports because of misconceptions and unfounded “issues” that don’t actually exist.
As cisgender people, no matter…
Pixar has got us thinking about death once again. While Coco (2017) transported us to the Land of the Dead to have us ponder what we’d be remembered for, Soul is an existential crisis set to jazz.
Like many stories meant to illustrate the meaning of life, the film quickly kills off its main character: Middle school band teacher and jazz pianist Joe Gardner meets his demise by falling down a manhole promptly after landing his dream gig.
Determined to get back to life in time for the show, Joe escapes the official afterlife and enters the You Seminar. The…
For the past few weeks, I’ve been inclined to play housewife. I don’t own a house and I’m not anyone’s wife, nor has my partner ever imposed gender roles on our relationship. And yet, I have relegated myself to this position because I don’t know what else I can be.
I’ve spent the past three weeks drifting through a whole lot of nothingness, feeling as though my skull is filled with a pile of bricks, leaving no room for anything except heaviness. I feel paralyzed mentally and physically. The slightest inconvenience sets off anger and tears. …